"This tendency of mine and others to assume GAY when I see men being affectionate isn’t entirely benign, however. The stereotype — that women can be physically affectionate to the point of actually performing cunnilingus on a street corner and people will regard them as just friends, while men just need to glance sideways at each other and I’m practically editing a fan-video about their relationship set to Ingrid Michaelson songs -– can be an incredibly harmful one."